Is John Mayer In A Relationship, Who Has He Dated? His Current Girlfriend, Dating History, Exes, and More

Who is John Mayer dating right now? The musician unpacks his love life and relationship history on ‘Call Her Daddy’ podcast.

Let’s face it — John Mayer is not necessarily the best person to date.

He may be an award-winning musician and songwriter with a sultry voice, but he’s got a few issues on the relationship front. As one celebrity publicist previously cautioned, “steer clear of him. He’s manipulative. He has a reputation … and it’s better to exercise caution dealing with anybody who kisses and tells.”

John has publicly bashed ex-girlfriends in the past, as was the case with both Jessica Simpson and Taylor Swift, the latter of whom is notorious for making exes the subjects of her songs. However, after years of a tainted reputation, the 45-year-old “Gravity” singer is ready to speak his truth on the misconceptions surrounding his dating life.

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John Mayer is single ATM, but he discussed his dating history on ‘Call Her Daddy.’

On the Dec. 21 episode of the Call Her Daddy podcast, John described himself as “currently single.” He stated that he’s always “sought [the] potential for a long-term relationship,” but later admitted he’s not too active in the dating scene these days — “I don’t really date,” he said.

John did reference past relationships, noting that he’s never really reached the comfortable stage with any of his exes: “I haven’t really got to the part of [a] relationship that was the ‘smooth sailing’ part. I have a feeling when I do, I’m gonna have a lot to work on — but I’ll be excited to work on it,” he told host Alex Cooper.

Although he boasts a long list of high-profile relationships — which includes past romances with Katy Perry, Taylor Swift, Jennifer Aniston, and Jessica Simpson — John announced that his playboy reputation is far from the truth. In fact, the “New Light” crooner shared he’s not afraid of commitment, adding that he’s always longed for marriage.

“Of course I want to get married,” John said on Call Her Daddy.

He also said that he aspires to have a relationship that can overcome hardships without entertaining the idea of separating: “I’m always supremely impressed by couples I know who are having a hard time but haven’t even considered breaking up,” the “Your Body Is a Wonderland” vocalist revealed. “That’s hot. That to me is the hottest.”

As for what John’s looking forward to the most in a romance? Mundane fights — “I can’t wait for someone to be mad at me because I said I would take the dry cleaning in [and I didn’t],” he said. “I would love that because that would suggest that we’re into something deep, meaningful, and secure.”

John also explained how his sobriety has affected his dating life.

During the interview on Call Her Daddy, the singer-songwriter opened up about his sobriety and explained how it’s impacted his dating life: “I quit drinking like six years ago, so I don’t have the liquid courage,” John explained. “I just have dry courage.”

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“You have to be honest. You have to express yourself, you have to be really, glaringly honest,” John added. “Here’s who I am, here’s what I like, here’s what makes me nervous. Here’s what I reject as an idea. You have to express your anxieties. You can’t just walk over them by drinking. You have to be like, ‘Here’s what I’m anxious about.'”

“When someone in life accommodates your anxiety, that’s bonding,” he expressed.

Check out this list of John Mayer’s famous past girlfriends.

Katy Perry

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Katy Perry and John dated for two years on and off before the pair eventually split in 2014, and the pop singer moved on with actor Orlando Bloom. “They’re two very strong-willed people. Despite caring about each other very much and wanting to make it work, they are, at their core, quite different,” a source told People magazine in 2016 about the reason behind their split.

However, in 2017, Katy live-streamed her life for 72 hours, and invited The Late Late Show host James Corden to play a round of the game “Spill Your Guts Or Fill Your Guts.” The game sets celebrities up to reveal personal information about themselves or risk eating disgusting food. 

When James asked who was the better lover between her three ex-boyfriends, Diplo, John, or Orlando (they were broken up at the time), Katy revealed that while they were all “amazing lovers,” she rated John first, the Lord of the Rings star second, and the DJ third.

Jennifer Aniston

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Back in 2008, actress Jennifer Aniston began dating John after the two met at an Oscars party. However, their relationship lasted less than a year as the singer disclosed in the infamous Playboy interview that he broke up with the Friends star, hinting that their eight-year age gap may have been a factor.

“I’ll always be sorry that it didn’t last,” the singer explained. “In some ways I wish I could be with her. But I can’t change the fact that I need to be 32.” 

Though the A-list stars ended their romance, they remained friends. John even attended Jen’s 50th birthday bash in 2019.

Taylor Swift

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While Taylor Swift infamously never discloses what famous exes are the inspiration for her songs, it is widely believed “Dear John” (from her third studio album Speak Now) is about her short-lived romance with the singer while the two dated from December 2009 until February 2010. 

“It made me feel terrible,” John said in a 2012 Rolling Stone interview after the time the scathing ballad was released. “It was a really lousy thing to do. I never got an email. I never got a phone call. I was really caught off guard. In response, John’s 2013 single “Paper Doll” is reportedly about the pop singer.

Jessica Simpson

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Following her split with first husband Nick Lachey, Jessica Simpson began dating John in 2005, but their on-and-off romance ended two years later. In his 2010 interview with Playboy, the “Daughters” singer described the blonde beauty as “sexual napalm.”

In her new memoir Open Book, the mother-of-three talks about her relationship with the guitarist. “He thought that was what I wanted to be called,” she recalled (via People). “I was floored and embarrassed that my grandmother was actually gonna read that.” 

Though he has since apologized for his comments, the clothing entrepreneur revealed in her book that even though he was “obsessed with” her both “sexually and emotionally,” she never felt “smart enough.” 

She explained: “He was so clever and treated conversation like a friendly competition that he had to win. My anxiety would spike and I would pour another drink.” Adding, “It was the start of me relying on alcohol to mask my nerves.” 

Minka Kelly

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Though their romance was very brief, Friday Night Lights star Minka Kelly dated John in the fall of 2008. According to People, the two were spotted out on dates in Austin, Tex. (where the CW show was filmed) and out in Los Angeles. John and Minka’s relationship reportedly fizzled out a few months later.

Jennifer Love Hewitt

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In 2002, the actress and guitarist were briefly linked just as his single “Your Body Is a Wonderland” debuted. The song is still one of John’s biggest hits, and it has been rumored that the lyrics are about his ex-girlfriend Jennifer Love Hewitt. In a 2018 interview with fellow actor Michael Rosenbaum on his podcast Inside of You, he asked if the tune was in fact inspired by the 9-1-1 star.

“No,” she stated, adding that while she doesn’t “believe that it was written for [her],” Jennifer thinks it’s still a “real compliment” that people think the song is about her body.

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